We came home earlier than anticipated from L.A. ? In the first two weeks of being signed on the west coast, we had 5 audition requests and 2 other print castings for Charlie. I had no idea how fast things would take off and I’ve been completely blown away by how hard our manager is working for us and rooting for us. 

The second week of June I got the call that Clayton was hand picked and requested by the casting director for a series regular on a long time running tv show. And when CBS calls… you go! 

His audition was on a Monday, we would find out Tuesday Or Wednesday if he was selected and filming would start on Thursday, then continue regularly for the following month, until taking a hiatus.  Obviously this left me no choice but to bring Charlie along too. 

Needless to say He didn’t get the job. It was down to him and another boy and sadly for us they decided to go with the boy who had more credits. So after hitting a couple more auditions we headed back home.

Y’all, This industry is so crazy and until you’re in it, like really fully immersed in it you just have no idea. I sure didnt. I never knew how the industry worked, what any of the lingo meant or what the the laws are that vary from state to state, about work permits or how damn hard these kids work. 

Did you know there are 25,000 agency repped child actors in L.A. alone. For every available job, the casting director is receiving thousands of submissions. If you get asked to self tape, that’s exciting. If you get an audition- that’s a big deal. If you get a call back- amazing. If you get whittled down to a handful and get to audition in front of producers it’s huge. Huge! 

It’s OK to not get the job. Thousands of kids did not get the job. We should be proud of The fact that our child even has an agent or The fact they have been requested.

And YES the process is frustrating and it sucks at times. And YES Clayton gets bummed out, and YES he feels defeated (questions that come up a lot), especially not getting picked on an opportunity like this one because he truly does grasp the gravity of these opportunities. 

BUT I remind him about all of the things above, and that all of those no’s are just stepping stones to the yes that awaits him.

If you follow any industry kids on social media, you probably see a lot of #bookedit or #directbooked and it may make you feel like you’re not stacking up.

Or, you may see kids who have booked a lead role after their first pilot season or within a few months of even starting the acting journey. But none of this is the norm.

The norm? The norm is what you don’t see plastered all over social medial. The norm are the kids who work their asses off for years, honing their skill, taking acting classes or watching videos of techniques and ways to improve. Spending hours studying and Learning pages of sides, multiple times a week. Completing self tape after self tape after self tape. Or the kids who go through multiple auditions just to get the tiniest part. For example the kid playing with super hero toys at the end of Shazam. Do you even remember which scene I’m talking about? He didn’t even get a line….But i bet that kid was SO freaking excited and proud to get that role, as he should be. THIS is the norm. The kids who go unseen.

We want to teach our kids if they work hard they can do/be anything they want to be, but as a parent this industry really makes you question that sometimes. At least for me it has.

It’s hard. It’s hard to see your child feel disappointed. It’s hard to see them work so hard and be so eager and then get turned down. All we can do is fill their cup with positivity, and reiterate that doing their best and having fun is the only thing that matters. And word of advice- if they aren’t having fun then it’s time to rethink the path they’re on.